YOUR MEDIATION
What to expect, step by step
Whether you're considering mediation or a court has asked you to attend, here's how it works.
What mediation is — and isn't
It is
- Voluntary agreements — no one can make you settle
- Confidential
- Your decisions — you keep control
- Guided by a neutral mediator
It isn't
- Court — no judge, no ruling
- Therapy or counseling
- Legal advice
- Someone deciding for you
Is it confidential?
Yes. What is said in mediation is confidential and generally can't be used as evidence, and Julie can't be required to testify about it. Two important limits: a signed mediated agreement can be enforced, and Tennessee law requires anyone who knows of child abuse to report it. Julie also follows any other disclosure the law requires. In private (non-court) mediations, confidentiality is set out in a written Agreement to Mediate that everyone signs first.
Can I tell Julie something privately?
Yes. In a private session, what you tell Julie stays private unless you say she may share it.
What to expect
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Reach out
Contact Julie directly to arrange a private intake call.
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Private intake call
Julie speaks with each party separately and confidentially, including a safety screening. Fees are discussed privately during intake. You'll receive a written explanation of fees and costs, including how they're shared between the parties, before any mediation session — and anytime on request.
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Preparing for your session
Julie helps you know what to gather and what to expect, so you arrive ready.
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The mediation
At a partner practice, a courthouse, or by secure video, with separate-room formats and breaks when needed.
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Afterward
Julie documents any agreements for the parties and their attorneys to review. Parties are encouraged to consult counsel before signing anything. In court-ordered cases the court receives only an attendance and settlement report, never what was said.
How to prepare
- Know your priorities — what matters most to you
- Gather relevant documents, such as financial statements or your current parenting schedule
- Think about what matters most for your children
- Write down your questions
- Talk with your attorney, if you have one
- Consider what a workable agreement might look like for you
Where you'll meet
Mediation most often takes place at a partner counseling practice, an area courthouse, or online by secure video. Separate-room formats are available in every setting.
Where we meet →Bringing your attorney
You may bring your attorney to mediation, or consult them during a break. Many people find it helpful to review options with their own lawyer before making decisions.
Taking care of yourself
Mediation can be emotional. If you already see a counselor, they can support you separately throughout this process. If you don't, Julie can share general resources. Counseling stays separate from mediation, and Julie does not diagnose or treat mediation parties.